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noreply@blogger.com (Warlock) — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 08:24:00 +0000

This is a picture of Satine Phoenix from a couple of years ago.

Punishment

noreply@blogger.com (Warlock) — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 07:48:00 +0000

There was a discussion started in FetLife today on Punishment (http://fetlife.com/users/44173). Here's what I wrote:

Every relationship I've been in has been different, so what I do to keep my submissives on their toes and help them perfect their submission vary widely as well. In general, though I see the issue as having two separate facets: I use light physical corrections along with positive feedback when I'm training subs. The punishment is to correct errors and inattention, the positive feedback (a smile and "Good Girl") is to reinforce things done well. Subs in training are trying hard to please me, so when they make mistakes it doesn't irritate me or even displease me, let alone make me mad; the mistakes and corrections are just part of the training process. On the other hand, seeing them improve certainly does please and make me happy. As part of this process, submissives will occasionally lose focus and get distracted, or go into Reactance for a short period as I take their freedom away. These are Discipline issues, and talking to them and arriving at an understanding with them is the first step. Correction is necessary too, though - more on that later. Punishment, for me, are for misbehavior, disobedience, carelessness, neglect, that sort of thing. Serious Discipline issues, in other words. This sort of thing usually comes after the main training phase. Some of this behavior stems simply from the natural tendency of subs to occasionally test their Masters; some of it comes from my getting distracted and not paying enough attention to my sub. And some of it is her letting the Bad Girl side of her get loose and out of control. It's all serious and it all needs to be dealt with immediately and firmly.

For correction and lighter punishments, I've always required them to tell me what they're being punished for, ask me to punish them, and thank me for caring enough for them to discipline them. When in training, or when they're being a good girl but just a little careless, for example, I tried just giving them a few light spanks as the physical part of the correction; but I've found three or five firm whacks with a back scratchier is far more effective. The light form of punishment can easily get to be fun for the submissive, and that's not good at all.

For medium mistakes and misbehavior, I do whatever seems appropriate for the girl and the circumstances. That can range from serving myself to bending her over a chair and giving her five cane strokes as hard as I can to ignoring her. That's in order of severity. Ignoring her, refusing to allow her to sleep in my bed, putting her in a cage in the back bedroom and turning off the lights are for most girls extremely severe, so I don't do them lightly; and I only do them if I think the balance between submissive and Master can be restored. If the circumstances suggest the relationship is too far out of balance, or is going irretrievably wrong, it's just time to release her, not punish her, It's not misbehavior if you've just grown apart or aren't compatible.

noreply@blogger.com (Warlock) — Fri, 03 Nov 2006 02:04:00 +0000

This is Kym - we did a shoot with her a couple of days ago. Her pictures will be up in a couple of weeks :-)
She's an excellent model. She moves amazingly well- tyeing her up and watching her writhe is an amazing experience. She's not a "Tie her elbows together" contortionist, but she's remarkably agile and creative in her body movements. That is, she finds really unusual ways to move in even very restrictive bondage, and if you tie her in inescapable but otherwise less restrictive bondage, you're in for quite a show.
For a bondage-only play session, it doesn't get any more fun or erotic than this.
... And that's without even considering what a nice girl she is to have in the house. Great sense of humor, good attitude, gentle friendly nature - I suspect we're going to be seeing a lot of her, and I think she's going to have a great career.

SM is:

noreply@blogger.com (Warlock) — Fri, 03 Nov 2006 01:23:00 +0000

My friend TAzma sent this to me:
*SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself into being the victim - all tied up and the center of attention.

*SM is when the belt hits, first it stings like hell, then it's warm.

*SM is two guys on a Harley, the front one raunchy and hairy and wearing full leathers, and his passenger in neat Levis, polo shirt, and tennis shoes.

*SM is the lady doctor from out of state that you keep tied up in a cage all weekend, and you invite your friends.

*SM is trying to piss while your Mistress holds your cock and makes comments.

*SM is your slave holding her hair out of the way without being told, as you put on her collar.

*SM is the quiet typist by day who turns into a whip-wielding mistress by the night in a professional house of dominance.

*SM is the sweat, and wondering if you are going to pass out, and finally letting go.

*SM is a pair of tiny gold handcuffs on an expensive dress at the symphony.

*SM is Sunday brunch at an SM bar: even though you're a straight couple, the leathermen know that you're into it too.

*SM is the Story of O, when you've been there, too.

*SM is putting in an ad, and you get 55 responses the first week.

*SM is making your boyfriend wear a French maid outfit, and serve lunch to you and your two best girlfriends, who are into women's lib.

*SM is screaming "THAT'S ONE SIR! THANK YOU SIR!" at the top of your lungs.

*SM is the gratitude, all your life, to the person who brought you out.

*SM is trying to explain the massive frame and eyebolts to your landlady.

*SM is finding the perfect pair of boots.

*SM is your new slave, blindfolded, masturbating, and telling his secret fantasies, while you watch and listen to every marvelous detail.

*SM is falling asleep with your hands and feet bound- and the dreams.

*SM is the guy at the party who asks if he can try on your handcuffs.

*SM is the proud African youth in National Geographics, wtih a skewer through his cheeks, and knowing that you both know what you know.

*SM is forgetting to take off your steel cockring, and it sets off the alarm at the airport.

*SM is how hot her ass feels when you caress the welts.

*SM is putting up with a picky uncertain submissive, novice-new, who doesn't know how to say what she wants to say; but finally gets down to it, and takes your breath away with the magnificent totality of her submission.

*SM is all the people explaining why SM is so bad, knowing nothing about it, and you want to giggle, because they're so serious.

*SM is the perfume of sweaty leather.

*SM is your fifth anniversary, and all your friends hold and cuddle you while your lover has a professional piercer put a gold ring through your labia. Afterwards she holds and kisses you, and you'd do anything for her.

*SM is Errol Flynn chained by pirates.

*SM is the uniform in your closet, waiting for Saturday night.

*SM is being absentminded at work on Monday.

*SM is being taken downstairs blindfolded and handcuffed. After you're stripped and tied up, the blindfold comes off, and you see it's soundproof.

*SM is hurting the one you love, just exactly right.

*SM is wondering what your co-executives would say if they knew about the welts and the sticky panties underneath your conservative suit.

*SM is wishing you could afford one of everything at the SM shop.

*SM is seeing a branding, done right, and marveling "how easy!"

*SM is how good your nipples feel when the clamps are perfect; and then the little bite more, and how your nipples adjust to accept that, too.

*SM is the humiliation of discovering that your new slave is far more experienced than you are.

*SM is spotting an ancient gay masochist on the bus: shaved head, faded jacket, heavy chain and padlock around his neck, tattoos coming out of his collar and cuffs - quiet, upright, proud, centered, and content.

*SM is shaking talcum powder into your rubber suit.
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I wrote back:
SM is also a naked girl kneeling in front of you with her hands cuffed behind her back, whom you've just gotten into subspace for the first time in her llife, and seeing the rush of emotion go through her as you stroke her face.
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and she wrote:

aaaahhh....
i love when someone brings a certain memory back to me.. gotta revise that list, by having everyone add something to it, as it goes around and is read...

Click On Image To See More Of Kelly!

noreply@blogger.com (thound) — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 07:33:00 +0000

KELLY IN SUSPENSION

noreply@blogger.com (Warlock) — Tue, 31 Jan 2006 06:59:00 +0000

This is the lovely Erica Kole, from out latest shoot last Sunday.

Welcome!

noreply@blogger.com (thound) — Tue, 29 Nov 2005 08:57:00 +0000

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